How does one succeed in life?

Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.

Making more friends is a goal.

Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.

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Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.

That's it for today.

An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):

Why do men choose to marry a plain Jane woman over a pretty woman?

PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.

Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.

Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.

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Ask yourself:

Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.

Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.

What was it like being spanked as a kid?

Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.

Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.

However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:

How do you say "I don't speak Italian yet, but I hope to speak it well one day. It would be a pleasure to learn Italian with you. Would you like to teach me Italian?" in Italian?

How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?

Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.

Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).

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Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.

Does not procrastinate.

Avoids sugar and is very fit.

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First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.

Hangs out with loser friends.

Big dreamer but only in his mind.

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Losing 20kg is a goal.

Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.

Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.

Can you list every album you have ever listened to?

Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.

If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.

Saving $10,000 is a goal.

When was the last time you had sex with someone much older than yourself?

The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.

How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?

Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.

Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).

Procrastinates a lot.

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Opens a business and makes WiFi money.

Living to your full potential is a goal.

Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.

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Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.

Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.

In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.

Do not set goals—set systems.

I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?

“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.

Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.

The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.

What I need from you?